|photo: Derek and Moy - happier times|
"My name is Moy Harries and Derek Hoare is my younger brother. I am writing this letter in support of my niece, Ayn returning home as soon as possible.
I don’t know a more dedicated and loving parent than my brother, Derek. I would challenge anyone to trade their life for even a day with my brother. He has truly given his life to helping his children’s special needs. Anyone who meets my brother easily sees his deep devotion for his children. I have never once heard Derek complain or wish his life different. In the last 11 years, Derek’s children have continued to thrive, develop and grow despite all odds. Derek has studied, researched and worked hard toward teaching all his children as best able and this is evident in seeing his children today vs. 10 years ago. Derek’s children are bright, funny, happy little souls and I love them all dearly.
Even though we reside in Ontario, myself, my husband Jeff and my son Cole have visited regularly over the years. Our last visit was only a few short months ago in March of 2011. Ayn has grown into such a little lady. Ayn’s laughter is infectious and she is beautiful inside and out. Her composure and capabilities are increasing by leaps and bounds as she ages. I have never seen Ayn in a “dangerous” outburst. Ayn certainly can be a handful – but so can my 8 year old son who is not autistic!I have an addendum to post. Derek's youngest sister wrote a comment today on the blog site, and I want you to read it. She too is highly supportive of Derek, for good reason, and critical of the failure of MCFD to act properly with regard to this case.
I agree 100% that my brother has his hands full raising his 3 children on his own with limited family support. He would never have it any other way. No one should judge my brother’s struggles and triumphs with his family. I personally think increasing support to help my brother raise his 3 children in their own home would be the absolutely best outcome.
I can only imagine the fear and confusion Ayn must be feeling right now. I know the pain my brother and nephews are feeling is tremendous. This tears at my heart as a parent. A fast resolution to any concerns about Ayn’s safety should be paramount.
Ayn will always require more help and support as she grows. So help my brother please. Not by removing Ayn from those she loves and is most comfortable with – by helping her in her own home.
The most beneficial outcome for everyone in this family would be continued support for my brother while raising his children in their home. No one is going to help Ayn more than my brother. No one is going to love her and support her more than my brother. No one.
There is no person better suited to continue to be the main source of love & support for Ayn, Lyric and Wyatt than Derek.
Please help support my brother in raising his 3 children in their home. Please return Ayn to her family as soon as possible.
Moy Harries, DSW, EA"
"My name is Mandy, and I am Derek's younger sister. I was the one to start the facebook page and I wouldn't have done it except for the strong love I have for my brother. I have kids myself, none of which are autistic, but when ever I have any issues, i immediately call on him for advice. Derek's parenting skills are unmatched by any professionals, and he supports and understands his kids better than anyone.
I can't imagine Ayn trapped in that place for months. Someone at MCFD did not "investigate" the situation properly or else I would have been contacted. Another flaw in the MCFD is that instead of placing a special needs child into foster care after removal from a family is to talk to the closest relatives. A child is supposed to be with their family who knows them and understands them.
Derek is the most patient and understanding parent out there and Ayn needs to be returned. The best place for Ayn to be is where it will do the most good. That is, and always will be.... Home."
The Care2 Petition Site provides an opportunity to sign a petition for Ayn (Bring Ayn VanDyk Home) and to join the now 2100 signees already there. By the time you go to the site, there may be 3000 signatures. Your signature is delivered to the Ministry of Children and Family Development.
Please contact Derek Hoare directly at
Derek Hoare firstname.lastname@example.org