|Ayn at play|
Of course he could satisfy himself and even persuade himself that Ayn is aching to see him too. I have instinctively felt that he should visit Ayn, and yet I have read his carefully considered rationale for holding back from visiting her. I have come to respect his decision because I conclude it requires a depth of love greater than most of us have envisaged. His love will not consent to breaking her heart. That would surely happen if he said goodbye and left again without taking her home.
I blame the Ministry of Children and Family Development Abbotsford office for this situation. But that is too nonspecific. I blame the social workers who were originally assigned to the Ayn Van Dyk case. What is the situation? What is the case? The situation is easier to explain than is the case. The situation is that this nine year old girl has been kept from her father for almost six months. She is living in a foster care home. She is receiving medication and at times this has been a strong anti-psychotic treatment. The case consists of what? Derek does know. The presenting grounds we can cite. Ayn left her yard and went to a neighbour’s home. Her father could not find her. A police search located her three hours later playing in the neighbour’s yard. There may have been other factors that deemed her location and absence an at-risk episode. This would seem an ah-ha moment, a teaching moment when social workers might take whatever time was required to go over with Derek, all of the precautions that satisfy the Ministry that a child is secure. But the family development component of this Ministry’s mandate was abandoned in lieu of the determination to take Ayn away, have her examined as to her autistic condition and whether medications can make her more manageable. So instead the social workers opted for the opinion that this child required protection and that was best achieved by taking her away. There never was any intention of sensibly talking with Derek about reasons for this episode or ways to prevent a reoccurrence. Rather, social workers came to Derek ostensibly to inquire what happened when Ayn escaped the fenced yard, but they quickly changed topic to request that he voluntarily agree to let them take Ayn supposedly for the short term. They had a form for him to sign for this purpose, ready among their documents. He was understandably furious and resistance to this course of action, so the social workers left, and four days after Ayn’s flight to freedom she became a detainee – lifted our of her school when her parents were not there and were not informed. So for the past 5.5 months this girl has agonized and cried and puzzled and wondered and struggled and hoped and still for these social workers an Ayn is our of sight and out of their consciousness. What a despicable line of work this is when it is done like this, so incompetently, so amateurishly, so heartlessly. What has this achieved for Ayn? How has it benefited her? It was purportedly done in her best interests. Have you heard that before? No, this has harmed her. Perhaps we cannot know how this treatment has weakened her social development. When she is at last returned to Derek, he will be the one who must handle the challenges of her deterioration of trust and confidence and self esteem. There has been no disclosure about the MCFD’s reason for taking Ayn. So what was it? Precaution? Nonsense, she has escaped twice while in care. She has been drugged, under medical supervision, of course! To no effective purpose!
Derek must long to hold Ayn close, never wanting to let go. He didn’t think he would have to let go this time.