Saturday, February 13, 2010
NOTICE
I made a polite request for civility in making comments rather than making personal attacks. I appreciate interaction even with people who hold opposing opinions. Much can be gained from listening to one another. However, I am dismayed by some of the comments by people who believe they are assisting me in my interest to encourage the Baynes in their recovery attempt. I don't write my entries with a view to scoring by wounding and I don't require that kind of help from anyone else. Name calling and irrational rhetoric does not serve my purpose. I thought I would simply remove a couple of commentators. Now I am seriously considering removing the comment option entirely. I view that as unfortunate but preferable. I will sleep on it.
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please don't take the comment option off of your blog. yes, there are instances where people are passionate about what is happening and post inappropriate, emotional lashings, but this is the only thread that many people can view. my question to those who are so opposed to a victory for the baynes, why don't they start their own blog, with their own opinions, rallying with those who feel the same way they do? if these people know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that the baynes are guilty, then they should be as courageous as you are and share "the other side of the story". they are frustrated, because they believe some things based on their own experiences and no one is listening to them. but if they were to post them, then we could discuss with them why they believe what they do and both sides would be out in the open. isn't that what they want? to have their side listened to? it's not your job to post what they believe, that's entirely their own responsibility.
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ReplyDeleteI think you have a great idea; however, we are under a legal confidentiality clause - we can't discuss the other side. Therein is the frustration. I myself have sworn to anonyminity (sp?)with my friends so that I could finally say SOMETHING! The foster parents involved, the social workers, all the other doctors, therapists, specialists, teachers, Sunday school teachers, aides, etcetera, that know these children well and work with them everyday, and know many aspects of this story but were not subpoenaed, everybody involved has signed confidentiality - to preserve the rights of the children, who are too young to speak for themselves, but who are all over the internet now ... That is why there is not a single blog set up to present the other side. It is legally inappropriate and any person that did so would be severely disciplined. The frustration that almost the entire medical community of the province, the country, and internationally, are behind the diagnosis of SBS, and yet only one doctor of the many many doctors that have worked with both Bethany and Baden have had the opportunity to speak ... that it reads as if there is so little support for the diagnosis. I don't wish anyone harm, and I don't think there is a solution for fostering children. However, I was a foster child, I lived under the guardianship of the Ministry, and yes, it is so easy to poke holes, because who knows what to do with abused children??? It is systemic and extremely difficult. Hopefully, through this and many more stories, concerns will be addressed, and changes made. What I DO know is that one family made a difference for me - one FOSTER family. They loved me, they believed in me, and they had a vision for my life. I myself came from a middle-class family, and our family life was a secret, and it was horrible, as domestic abuse always is. I truly believe my foster family saved me. I know there are many stories out there that slam foster parents - they are all the stories that make the press and sell newspapers and get media time - they sell. But for every one, there are many, many others that love, cherish, and care for these children that have no voice.
Ron, please allow us a small voice. I try very hard not to villify or accuse. It is very hard, I agree, to sit back when loved ones are being accused of horrendous acts, and it is coming from boths sides - your natural need to defend and represent the Baynes, and all those that are being accused of torturing and harming the Bayne children, and yet have no avenue of defense without identifying themselves and breaking their sworn confidentiality.
i think mrs u. needs to take a second and realize that there is a casse before the courts and the people that are so sure the baynes are inocent do not know what the people who cant speak up due to thier " clause " know. im sure if you did you might ask questions too. but like the rest of us your not involved and only respond to what you read. form your opinions carefully pls.
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