Tuesday, September 24, 2013
SUSPENDED VISIT ARE NOW RESUMING - COURT DATE TUES 24TH
By any definition of the best interests of a child that is a long time away from the care of the biological family. And given the fact that this girl never suffered any abuse or neglect when in the care of her father and mother, and the Ministry acknowledges that, twenty-seven months in foster care is inconceivable. I chose that last adverb deliberately, in order to underscore that our experience with cases managed by the Ministry presents predictable evidence that long delays in returning a child to parents are the norm. The fact that this protracted separation is now conceivable, is inconceivable. Last year Amie was finally being allowed regular visitation, then unsupervised visits, and then overnight. Suddenly it stopped. An overdue explanation informed her that something required investigation so visits were suspended.
“Today I was allowed to see my daughter for the first time in weeks. She was able to express that she was angry because she missed me. Though there is no explanation I can provide that she is able to understand, it was very positive. Surprise, surprise, she did not want to go home. As an added little gem, she has taken to calling me Amie instead of mommy part of the time. I assume she has heard my name come up and have no idea under what context. "
"The investigation that prompted visitation to be suspended is inconclusive. I will say only that Ayn made a comment that is concerning (which did not associate with myself or Derek specifically) yet her access to both her parents was stopped. My earlier access had been approved for up to 3 times a week with the ok for over night visits. Initially, under the guise of "following Ayn's lead" as not to overwhelm her, I was told we would resume visits gradually with 1 1/2 hrs. a week. We were able to negotiate for a full visit starting with once a week... Once a week. I exercised extreme restraint in not voicing exactly what I thought of that! I know this post will raise questions. I have few answers and I know I'm being slightly vague... “
“Court is again on Tuesday. We forfeited the trial dates back in December when we signed a consent order with a 90 day return plan. We have not signed a consent order since then. We may get new trial dates on Tuesday. We won't be signing another consent order. The social worker, ministry lawyer, myself and my lawyer will be having a meeting in the near future."
Asked whether Derek had also been given a resumption of visits at the time of writing this note, Amie said, “He has not. They don't want Ayn to be overwhelmed. Ayn talked about seeing her dad (Tuesday 23rd). I told her we were working on it. She downloaded a picture of him and told me she missed him and "older Wyatt.”
BULLETIN: AMIE WROTE .. "Court was adjourned for another month. A meeting is going to be set up with the social worker, ministry lawyer, myself, and my lawyer. Again I have few details. I can't really elaborate. I just want this nightmare to end."