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Their time with Josiah was a delight for them because he was wide awake. They could feed their son some sugar water and hold him and comfort him. They used the opportunity to pray for him. You must appreciate that this is important to the Baynes.
On Saturday Josiah was released from hospital into the care of the foster family. Although the Baynes want to know how the baby is doing, communication with social working staff over the weekend is difficult because of off hours.
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Each child then gave his or her mom a card which had the reason why this child loved his/her mother. Baden’s card is pictured here. He wrote, "I love you because you do everything if we need help." This card was the best gift she has ever received she said. He may never know how much he has needed her to fight for him. For now the simple needs which she tries to meet are the important ones to him. This meant a great deal to Zabeth since she knows that she is not a large part of his daily life at the moment yet still he feels this love for her. Paul and Zabeth are deeply gratified that even with the few hours they share with their children each week, the children feel secure.
Although Zabeth had made the request in advance the timing for a Sunday Mother’s Day for Zabeth could not be arranged. The Baynes accepted this as they have so many other special occasions and yet it must be difficult for a mom to know that her children are in another mother’s home on this day. It brings tears but she busies herself with other tasks.
Saturday was a great time with her oldest three children and that is a Mother’s Day at any rate – for her any time she is with her children is a Mother’s Day. Well, I can hardly wait for the Mother’s Day of the half-decade when these four children aware awarded back to Zabeth and Paul.
The timing could not be arranged for Zabeth to be with her children on Mother's Day? This is just appalling.
ReplyDeleteIt may seem appalling yet I perceive that the logistics were not workable. Saturday is the regular visitaton day (6 hrs in the Bayne home - supervised). Sunday would have been additional to that, and if it was not but merely an exchange of hours, that was likely a difficulty to arrange with the assigned supervisor/transporter of the children. She is likely a mother herself with family expectations and plans on the Sunday. So I try to understand the situation even while regretting what it does to a mother like Zabeth.
ReplyDeleteOne must imagine the thousands of parents on mother's day in BC not able to connect with their children in the care of MCFD on meaningful days. The other reality is Sunday may be double-time payments.
ReplyDeleteThere are non-parents, male supervisors, iphones that do video conferencing with computer webcams -- there are innumerable means available to facilitate communications. In short, the reason given does not wash.
On a related note, is there communication between the children and parents?
Another way to guage sincerity of MCFD with respect to the objective of a return is the quality (or lack of) communications between the foster parent and the bio parents.
If the current caregivers have been accustomed to viewing the Bayens through the lens of SBS and abuse, I am wondering now if they have corrected any misconceptions and are thinking return and transition.
In the few years that I have known Zabeth and Paul I have always wondered how a system that is suppose to protect children could actually do the exact opposite and destroy YEARS of wonderful family moments. How this case ever got this far I will never know. Zabeth and Paul are two wonderful, loving people who have somehow been caught in this vortex of control by a government agency that should be ashamed of themselves for continually acting inappropriately with regards to this case. It appalls me and breaks my heart.
ReplyDeleteSusan Patterson yours are my sentiments exactly.
ReplyDeleteI am still counting the days until June 2nd (23 to go) when every Birthday,Christmas and MOTHERS DAY will be just as they should be for the Baynes,I am trusting God with all my might,for their strong and blessed future together as a family.