It was all in The Province. What an informative and provocative service has been provided by the journalistic decision to develop and publish a 12-part series on what parents and government can do to give B.C. children a better start in life.
On Monday the eighth part occupied several pages with an assortment of articles. You can also read these online now. There are so many quotable quotes. I will place some of them here and seek to convey other lessons.
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Dr. Clyde Hertzman, photo by Arlen Redekop, The Province |
For instance, Sam Cooper did a piece called '
In Life, It's All About the First Five Years.' Well didn't we all know that? Perhaps not so much. When the impact of that fact is supported by the research of two hundred inter-disciplinary researchers who form a team supervised by Dr. Clyde Hertzman, the director of the Human Early Learning Partnership (HELP) at the University of B.C., this critical period of each life seriously impacts what we are discussing every day on this blog and every day that the Ministry of Children conducts its business. Dr. Hertzman told Cooper, "
Early life experiences can actually change the way in which our genes express themselves...So it's no longer a question of nature or nurture -- it's a question of how nurture changes nature."
Hertzman says that “
the biological 'code' of success in life is built by all the sounds, sights, touches, thoughts and emotional interactions that children experience in their first few years.” Then consider the Bayne children as a mere sample of the impact that removal and fostering has had upon malleable fresh lives. Paul and Zabeth have tried as well as they can to deliver large doses of acceptance and affection in the time allotted to them over three years when these children had to process on their own the wrenching away from their home, the adjustment to new people, caregivers, the stress of sorting through loyalties and following instructions from a host of people and hearing their parents remonstrated by visitation supervisors if incomprehensible lines were crossed. Now they have been with foster families longer than they were with their biological family and how confusing might that be? Even social workers have prompted the parents to be sensitive in how they speak to their boys who may have possible lingering attachment to foster parents.
Cooper understood the HELP team to be saying that “
If children don't get what they need during the crucial developmental "windows" before the age of five, they likely will never bounce back.” In an interview in his office at UBC, Hertzman is asked: Can it really be true that a life story is basically written before the age of five? Hertzman answered that “
when things work out to begin with, it's way easier for kids to grow and develop. It's like leaky condos -- if it isn't built right from the beginning, it will be way harder and expensive to fix later on."
The baby girl that the Baynes or one of the Baynes have been accused of hurting to the point of endangering the life, is three years of age. What has she learned about life, about adults, about relationships, about trusting, about communication, about love? Hertzman in this article establishes that “
From birth to the age of three in particular -- the 'densest time of development' -- the primitive areas of the brain that allow us to interact well with others are growing and coming together, much like the architectural foundation of a building..... children are reading the facial expressions of adults and forming visual connections with the deep emotional centres of the brain...parents basically have an 18-month window to gaze at, hold and cuddle children to help them build the right structures.”
This sampling does not do credit to the article and to Dr. Hertzman's views so I encourage you to read the article
here. He was asked what parents can do and he cited these for the newspaper.
“FIVE THINGS PARENTS CAN DO
1. Early on in life, spend as much time as possible holding, touching, talking to your child.
2. Get in the habit of reading fun bedtime stories to your child. Make it a loving, emotional experience, and ask questions, too.
3. Provide as much time as possible for your child to play with other children and on their own.
4. If you need to use childcare, insist on high-quality care and environments.
5. Develop a support network with neighbours and friends to help solve your family's problems with work-life time challenges."